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Lenser Family

I met Lori in the Spring 1992. We formed a strong friendship that grew into a traditional love and admiration for one another. Lori had two children when I met her, Heidi 9 and Dustin 7. Today they are young adults. Sometimes when I talk to them they sound as if they are more lost than Stevie, the daughter Lori and I have together. Stevie is just 13.

We lost Lori early this year to Breast Cancer. August of ’08 we were diagnosed (I say "we” because I was there for her and Stevie from the beginning) with a tumor in her left breast. Lori was at stage IV when it was detected. Lori had two questions she kept asking, "Why me? Why now?” My only response was, "It’s God’s will.” Lori was lost when her mother passed away. I understand more about this now.

Lori’s grandchildren are just 5 and 2 years old. She is going to miss all of those milestones in everyone’s life. Lori was just 46 when she was taken away. The lesson in all of this is: early detection is the key to surviving this ruthless disease. Say It, Fight It, Cure It . . .

Just a few months ago I couldn’t listen to Tim McGraw’s "It’s Your Love” without crying. Lori and I danced our first dance as husband and wife to that song. Stevie listens to that song a lot these days. I still tear up, but it is getting easier and less painful.