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Jeffries Family

Sasha Lynn Jeffries died at age 4 - Feb. 13, 2007. Jacob and I had been to Wal-Mart to buy Valentine’s Day gifts for the girls. After dinner, Sasha went to her room to play. A few minutes later, Jacob, who was 7, went into Sasha’s room and found her face down on her mattress. Somehow, in playing, she had become entangled in some loose curtain trim and was strangled. Jacob witnessed the entire chaotic scene that followed . . . emergency efforts, the trip to the hospital, questioning by police, and the painful return to an empty house.

There are no words to describe the pain that followed . . . for me and my son. Within a few months, Jacob’s mom left, leaving another hole in Jacob’s life. Our grief journey has been long and complicated . . . guilt, anger, pain, questions and love. Jacob felt guilty because he had not been able to keep Sasha safe –his job as a brother. I have the same feelings as her father. It took sooooo long to comprehend that this had happened to our family. Jacob still struggles with that.

Jacob and I have a very special bond. We love Sasha and we love each other. That has helped us make it. We know the life she is living now is better than anything I could have provided for her here. I find comfort in the words of the James Dean song . . . "Where or where can my baby be? The Lord took her away from me. She’s gone to Heaven so I gotta be good. So I can see my baby when I leave this world.” We will be together again.