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Hickerson Family

Rodger Neil Hickerson July 2, 1993 – March 3, 2008

On March 3, 2008 our lives changed forever. We had just returned from a weekend trip. It was unusual for me to be home early (4:00 p.m.) but I was; (now I know God made sure that I was there). A short while later Tyler-my youngest son, my mom, and I were sitting in the front room, and I heard a loud thump. Rodger Neil, our 14-year-old son, had fallen back in his chair. I asked, "Are you okay?” With no answer, I went into the kitchen and could tell he was not breathing, so I started CPR. My mom started calling for help.

The ambulance arrived, and I just knew it would be alright. We arrived at the hospital behind the ambulance and Rod, my husband, who had been at work arrived shortly. We were taken into a small room about 15 minutes later, and we were told he was gone.

There were no answers for us; we were left to wonder "WHY?” "Where was God when we needed him?” "Why us and not someone else?” "He was a good kid - never in any trouble.” Then they wanted to know if they could have his organs. That was hard but I know it was the right thing to do. We walked through the motions of a funeral trying to keep it together for Tyler. By this time he was sleeping with us because of nightmares.

Two months later we received a phone call that we knew would answer everything- it didn’t! The autopsy report did not find a cause of death. "Now what do we do??” We talked to doctors and lawyers; no one had answers and the insurance companies would not pay our policies. We are left with so many questions.

God has been there for us, in ways we just didn’t recognize. We will never take tomorrow for granted again. We will be with him again someday.