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Mending Hearts


  • My daughter, Teisha had finally turned her life over to the Lord after a troubled life . She had two small boys and a husband in prison. She lived with me and the boys. Kylan was 4 and Langdon not yet 5 months old. On November 26, 2013, she left to attend a parole hearing for her husband. The boys stayed at home with me. For some unknown reason, her car veered far off the road into an embank...

  • Our names are April and Imagon, and this is our story. Our dad/grandpa got sick and had a stroke in 2004. He couldn’t talk after the stroke, so we started taking care of him. In 2013 he started getting sicker and had another stroke. April 1, 2014 he passed. Shortly after he passed, our mom/grandma got sick. Her lung disease had taken a turn for the worse, and antibiotics weren’t helping any...

  • On March 28, 2014 we lost a wonderful man-a husband, father, best friend. It changed us. It left a hole that is impossible to fill. I feel it every day. I see it when I look at my kids. I feel it anytime there’s a special event or occasion that he should be at. I get sad. I get angry. I cry a lot. My kids and I miss him every single day, but we go on. It’s all we can do. Lost and Found has been ...

  • On the first Saturday of December 2014, we came home to a tragedy. We came home excited to talk to our dad, but when we went into his room, he was lying there dead. Walking in and seeing that will shock you to the core. It leaves an unbelievable impact on your life. That’s where Lost and Found came into our lives. They help with that shock and hard impact on your life. Lost & Found helps you...

  • July 20, 2013, our lives changed and not for the better, but for the worse. We lost the most important person in our life, our dad. Coming home from the hospital knowing that the one person you want to come home with you, isn’t coming was the hardest. Knowing you won’t see that person anymore makes you want to fall off the face of the Earth. When we heard of Lost and Found, I didn’t think I need...

  • We never imagined having to grow up without our dad. Even though we didn’t live with him, he would come over twice a week for dinner. We’d play games and watch movies together. Sometimes he’d juggle for us. He could juggle almost anything . . . and always made us laugh. We had always hoped that Dad’s life would get better and we’d be able to live with him again. His unexpected death brought an e...

  • We had 17 beautiful, wonderful months with our sweet, happy, and very loving little boy, Xander Elias. The very last thing we expected was a terminal diagnosis - Leukemia. A nightmare of a week followed as he was transferred to St. Jude's and we watched our son fade before our eyes until his life ended abruptly in St. Jude's ICU. Our hearts, our lives, our family will never be the same again. ...

  • I met Curtis when I was 15 years old. We got together when I was 20, and were inseparable ever since. He took to being a father immediately. He had never been around children before Landon, but he was a natural. The moment I fell in love with him and thought he was the one, was when Landon had been very sick and Curtis stayed up all night helping me wash sheets and give hugs and medicine. There ...

  • My mom was diagnosed with Breast Cancer stage 3, grade 4 when she was 35 in July of 2007. She underwent chemotherapy immediately. For 2 years she was in remission, and then she got the news that it had spread to her brain. It eventually spread to the bones. She went through more chemotherapy, radiation and cyber knife treatments to get rid of the masses. In the summer of 2012, she underwent a hi...

  • Austin was an amazing 12-year-old boy who is loved by so many. Born 10-29-01 and passed suddenly 5-26-14 by a brain tumor that hemorrhaged one night. His two little brothers miss him so much! They had so many questions and new feelings. Lost and Found has helped so much on that. I truly miss my son. We think and talk about him every day. I am grateful for the support my kids and I have received ...

  • We lost Keira’s mom, Jessica, on May 20, 2013. We miss her so very much. Lost and Found was something I know that we really needed and has helped us get through it all. Faith and Hope get us through, and Lost and Found supports us when we need encouragement. Thank you, Lost and Found. We love you all!

  • It will be three years this September since George passed away. He may be gone, but I see him and hear him every day in our children. William, in his caring heart, Josiah in his intelligent mind and Olivia in her hugs and kisses. He would be so proud of them! And Lost and Found will always be a place we can go and share our thoughts and feelings. Our friends there truly understand. We love you...

  • The girls lost their mom- Kori Driver- on August 11, 2014. "We were all heart-broken when this happened”, says Kendra. "I thought I would never be happy again until Lost and Found helped me.” Family comes together in strength and love; but, many times the outside support and words of comfort from "professionals”, in a safe place to say anything is so important! Thank you, Lost and Found

  • We lost Todd in a motorcycle accident. His loss was so sudden and tragic that we felt like we lost our whole world, and in a lot of ways we had. There was a huge void in our lives without him. Then a friend told us about Lost and Found. We started attending groups, and it started to help us. My daughters had kids their own age to talk to who understood how they were feeling. We started to unders...

  • The saddest day of our lives was January 2, 2014 , when our dear husband and daddy, Gary Fike, died suddenly.  Our hearts were broken.  So many of our dreams died with him that day.  Our lives would never be the same.  But we have come a long way in the past year-and-a-half in healing and adjusting to our new lives.  Of course, things will never be the same, and we will ...

  • My name is Connie Miller and this is my granddaughter Brandie Lee Frost known as "Princess” to her Daddy. On May 19, 2014 my son Brandon, his daughter Brandie and some friends went to Bakers Creek, to crawdad fish. Brandon dove off the bridge into the creek. When he came up Brandie thought he was fishing because his head was still in the water, but he wasn’t breathing so they started CPR. Bran...

  • I lost my dad at 15, it was the hardest thing I have ever had to go through. He was my best friend an the strongest guy I will ever know, he was sick with a liver infection for 10 years before it took him. I love him dearly, but now I know he is always with me and I can finally smile an laugh again. He still is the best friend I will ever have and I know he's watching over me in everything I do!...

  • My husband and I decided to take a vacation in New Orleans after renewing our wedding vows for our 11 th year anniversary. On our first evening there, we went out for dinner and drinks. Afterwards, he wanted to go to the casino, and I decided to go back to our hotel. That was the last time I ever saw him-because he never came back. I knew he would never leave me alone in a strange city by myself...

  • It started out a typical Sunday on June 8 th , 2014. How were we to know that our lives as we knew it would become shattered and forever changed? At approximately 8:30 Sunday evening, I received a frantic phone call from my son, who was on a family vacation in Washington State, that Mimi, his younger sister, my 14-year-old daughter, was not breathing or responding to paramedics who were frantica...

  • Bob, my husband, passed away on January 1, 2015, from a rare illness. We were married for twenty-eight years. Not long enough if you ask me! We have five wonderful kids! Bob wanted to see all his children marry and looked forward to grandchildren. The kids and I agree that he was a good listener, great cook, loved intelligent discussions (esp. about the Bible) and loved and cared deeply for his ...

  • This is the story of Amber, Chloe, Ethan and Matt. One dark day in the winter, Ethan’s sister Chloe passed into the realms beyond existence, leaving her family behind in devastation. A long, painful loss, this family decided to pick up the broken pieces and put them back together with Love and Light, as Sissy would have wanted them to do. To truly live, and not just exist . . .For now there is o...

  • I’ve lost the two most important women a young girl could lose: a mother and a big sister. Both suddenly, and within ten months of each other. I like to think that one day I’ll know why this happened to me. That’s what keeps me going, knowing that my story is going to help someone. That someone could be a close friend, a family member, a complete stranger, or that someone could be me. That’s cra...

  • On June 30, 2014, our dad went into the hospital unexpectedly. On July 16 th , 2014, he died of pancreatitis. We had no warning of his death, and it all happened very quickly and unexpectedly. My brother and I had never really considered that we should to talk to people about our grief until our mom suggested we go to Lost and Found. We were hesitant at first because it was all new to us. Looking ...

  • When my mom died, a counselor told me about Lost & Found, where I met nice people that helped me fight grief. After a year, I felt I could fight it alone, but then my granddad died, and I decided to come back.

  • I was only six years old when my dad died. He had cancer my whole life. I remember walking into my house, because someone was taking care of me, seeing my mom crying and then she told me that he had died. One of my best memories of my dad was whenever he would take me to the Discovery Center after picking me up from daycare. I remember at the Discovery Center he would help me with the giant bubb...

  • I just kept thinking he would get better. Even though he was sick for 8 months. I was in no way ready to accept my Daddy’s death. He died at the end of the last snow storm in 2014. I didn’t get to be with him for the last 3 days of his life because of the storm. I didn’t get to say good-bye. There was a lot of guilt there; it was hard. Even though my friends and family were supportive, I still fel...

  • We came to Lost and Found because we lost our father, husband, friend and confidant. We will always miss and forever love Benjamin F. Lewers, Jr. We continue to have struggles, but if we continue to be here for one another, we will make it through as a family. Jasmine and Alexis are my step daughters, and I’m fighting a legal battle to keep them here with Dante and myself, as they want to stay w...

  • Our life changed on February 23, 2015. My husband Kevin, at the age of 45, passed away. How could it be that this amazing husband, father, son, brother and friend that was so full of life could be gone, in an instant without warning? On this day, I not only lost my high school sweetheart of 30 years and my best friend, my children lost their Dad and the security of our close-knit family. I have ...

  • Samantha passed away from a long battle of Cystic Fibrosis. She was a pretty, spunky, fun-loving, young lady. She graduated from Kickapoo High School. Through the help of St. Louis Children’s Hospital, she wrote a book and then published it. Lost and Found has been a wonderful group helping my youngest daughter and I get through our grief. They have been extremely supportive and encouraging as we ...

  • "What a long strange trip it’s been”

  • We lost Anthony to a long battle of alcoholism and depression. We are forever changed. Learning how to live our lives with the grief is tough. Life goes on, and the world does not stop for us to catch up. Finding a haven-a place to grieve, to laugh, to remember-that’s made all the difference for us. Lost and Found has been that for us.

  • We lost Billy on January 12 th , 2014. He was an amazing father to Olivia. He was her "Big Daddy” and her biggest fan. Billy had a lot of pain in his body due to past sport and accident injuries. In the last year of his life he had two corrective-type surgeries. He was prescribed many different types of medications for the pain. He was released from a three-week stay at a physical rehab. He had ...

  • Like a lot of people, grief has sent me on a wild life journey. A journey with a lot of downs. If you aren’t careful you will stay down. For the longest time, I thought that was going to be me. After a long time of being alone on my journey, I broke down and revealed to everyone that thought I was strong just how weak and broken I truly was. I was sent to Lost and Found, and they saved me. They ...

  • Our mom was very kind and loving. When Daddy went to work, she took good care of us. She loved to snuggle with us. She never wanted to send us to school because she felt called to teach us at home. After having her last baby, she started feeling bad and never got better. She went to be in Heaven just four days before her oldest turned 10.She was a beautiful and passionate woman who cared very mu...

  • Logan came into our lives July 2012. We had no idea at the time he had Spinal Muscular Atrophy Type 1. SMA is similar to Lou Gehrig’s, with muscle weakening at the forefront. We knew we didn’t have a long time and made memories as we could together. In May 2013, Logan passed peacefully. Lost and Found came to the rescue for Lucas. With his only brother passing, they helped him see he wasn’t alon...

  • We are the Sanders. Hunter is Daddy, Desiree is mommy, Jackson is bubby, and Olivia is sissy. Finley was lil’-bubby. We love to laugh and tickle and wrestle and Finley loved to smile. Finley passed away on February 4 th , 2015 in his crib from SIDS. We are comforted by the fact that we know Finley is in heaven. He will never know pain, or hurt, or sickness. He will only experience Joy, Life, Lig...

  • My mom’s favorite color is pink. Her favorite food was Bean Burritos. I LUVE HER.

  • When I came to Lost and Found I was truly lost. My beloved dad had just passed awa,y and I didn’t know what to do. My best friend , Passed, and I was lost. Then I came to Lost and Found and I was found. They helped me cope with the loss, and I feel like I did before my dad died. I want to thank Lost and Found for helping me become me again. They’re amazing and just lifesaving.

  • Our grief began with the Cancer diagnosis. One year, one month, and one day later, we lost one of the greatest men we will ever know. Even though we knew it was coming, we were not prepared for the impact Jerry’s death would have on our lives. Until you have lived it, you cannot understand. Lost and Found is where we found that understanding. Sharing our grief process with others helped us bot...

  • I don’t even know where to start. The world turned upside down, nothing seems real at times. Everything reminds us of him, football games, swimming, cooking, yard work. We had no idea how to process, or start functioning again. Lost and Found has helped us learn to breathe again, and now we know we don’t have to forget. We don’t have to pretend.

  • I don’t think anyone expects to find themselves at Lost and Found. Two years ago my son Alex, tragically lost his dad Rex to the powers of addiction. We were both hurt by this terribly, feeling sadness and even anger. Lost and Found has given both of us a place to go and express our feelings. Alex does not have to feel alone, because there are other kids going thru the same thing. There are time...

  • I want to talk about my Dad. My daddy died when I was two. He was big and strong. I wish he was here to do stuff with me and drive me to school. If I had a dad, he would play football with me.

  • My name is Wyatt. When my dad Reid died, I came to stay with his mom, my grandma, Rendy. We call her MaMa. MaMa brought me to Lost and Found. I like it because I get to play with the other kids, and I get to help with the little kids. We do projects that help us with our feelings. Also, we do projects that help me remember Dad, like the memory box. We light candles on special days, like on Dad’s...

  • Our journey to Lost and Found began in November, 2008. Shelton lost his grandmother in February, 2007. His Dad, Tate, and I started dating January, 2008. Our relationship moved quickly, and soon we made our lives one. Tate’s job took him over the road so I took on the job of raising Shelton on a daily basis. As the days turned to weeks, I began to realize that something was always weighing hea...

  • Our mom, Darnella,was diagnosed with cancer on October 19, 2007. She had it for five years without knowing it, so whenever it was discovered it was practically everywhere in her body. They knew they could not stop it, but they could slow it down. The fight against cancer was a difficult and long one; chemo and radiation went on for months on end. Throughout all of the medicationand days where th...

  • I know dying or passing was bad. But what is worse is going on without her. Our lives will never be the same.

  • Christa was born with a rare kidney disease; through her trials she became a brave, courageous fighter. She survived out of sheer will and determination for 25 years. She was a very smart girl, full of wit and creativity. She enjoyed strong hugs and kind words. Her story is one of a kind; her trials and defeats are second to none. She loved horses, the beach and, when she was younger, imitating ...

  • Dearest Bill... March 20, 2009…It seems like only yesterday but also forever since we heard your voice, saw your smile, and felt your strong arms around us. I miss your hands...I long for your love. You gave us the strength to read from our precious journals that told the last 13 years of our life together. We will cherish them forever, and with time, our sons will read about our uncondition...

  •   Lost and Found has improved the dynamics in our family. It has created a specific time for our daughter to feel comfortable in processing the death of our son. This appears to have helped our daughter to understand and heal. She seems more confident in learning when and how to cope with our loss.Our family system has demonstrated progress as well. By sharing our feelings and concerns, i...

  • The little boy you’re looking at is Kirk. I call him "Captain Kirk.” He has had so many losses in his short 8 years – and every one of them has been my loss, too, so that I sometimes could not bear the additional weight of his sorrow. He lost his beloved grandparents (my mother and father) who could not have loved him more. Then he lost John, his step-dad and the only father he had ever known. A...

  • Our lives were forever tragically changed on June 12, 2008. We felt lost and confused! What do we do now? With love and support, Sherri and I are finding a way to heal after the death of her father! We will never forget Jody Dustin Alexander. He will be with us always, in our hearts, thoughts and fond memories. – Chrystal

  • May 21, 2004, forever changed our lives. How we thought, how we felt and how we lived. My 8 year old son and I pulled upon the scene of an accident that involved my mom and Roman, my 5 year old son. Seeing my mom’s van covered still brings chills to me. Hearing the words that my mother was dead and my son had been airlifted took me to an out of body experience. I was in disbelief when I got to t...

  • Linde was the love of my life. She was my best gal since we were 15 years old. When she died, part of me died with her. I talk to her every day. She is my compass. Life without her is beyond description. Lost and Found has been a Godsend for me and my family. We are slowly reinventing "normal.” It’s getting better every day, but my impatience is not helpful. I cherish my time with Linde and feel...

  • When I was four years old, I watched my father die of a heart attack. One doesn’t know how slow and monotonous life is when you watch your friends do things with their fathers and you have to live life without. Ever since I saw my father die, I have taken an adventurous, accepting view of life. Life is too short, and it isn’t worth it to waste what you’ve got. I’ve learned that laughter is the b...

  • My mother, Saundra Dameron, was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s when I was in the 7 th grade. She was in her mid-50’s. At the time I didn’t understand how much that would affect everyone’s lives. She had Early On-Set Alzheimer’s, so the disease progressed quickly. It wasn’t long before she needed assistance to perform daily functions. By my 8 th grade year, I realized what was going to happen. Knowin...

  • The day of August 18, 2008 my life was changed forever, and the guilt I feel is great. Ericka and I have had to learn how to be mom and daughter. She was closer to her dad, and she is the one who found him. Half of me is gone, and my heart bleeds. Some days I wonder if I ever will be whole again. I am afraid that I will be and then afraid that I will forget him. Ericka is tired of me being sad.

  • Rodger Neil Hickerson July 2, 1993 – March 3, 2008 On March 3, 2008 our lives changed forever. We had just returned from a weekend trip. It was unusual for me to be home early (4:00 p.m.) but I was; (now I know God made sure that I was there). A short while later Tyler-my youngest son, my mom, and I were sitting in the front room, and I heard a loud thump. Rodger Neil, our 14-year-old son, had...

  • The life- shattering phone call. The long drive home. The heartbreaking news I had to share with them. They were 10, 6, 2, and 9 months old. The ground crumbling beneath our feet, sending us spiraling into disparity. Crying, confusion and absolute devastation. The old us . . . and the new us. It's now been 3 years since Doug passed away. During that time we have discovered that our lives are a j...

  • This is my daughter, Alana. She is an amazing person. This is Keeton, my son, one of the two most amazing people I know! Their mother, Tammy, died when they were 4 and 6 years old. We have come so far. Sometimes I cry because I get to be their Dad….I’m So Lucky.

  • Sasha Lynn Jeffries died at age 4 - Feb. 13, 2007. Jacob and I had been to Wal-Mart to buy Valentine’s Day gifts for the girls. After dinner, Sasha went to her room to play. A few minutes later, Jacob, who was 7, went into Sasha’s room and found her face down on her mattress. Somehow, in playing, she had become entangled in some loose curtain trim and was strangled. Jacob witnessed the entire ch...

  • When my husband was murdered it knocked the wind out of me. I do not think I will ever recover; it is like I have been crippled. No one in my life has ever made me feel as wanted as he did, and now I just feel lost and empty. At first, the kids and I were afraid to sleep alone, so we all camped out in the living room. We avoided being at home at all costs, and even now sitting down to dinner is ...

  • It has been five and half years since Rick died. We are better. Taking it one day at a time sounds corny, but it is the truth. One day is all I could get through in the beginning. The future was way too bleak, but eventually I could get through a week and so on. I felt suicidal when I though about the future. Don’t let guilt take over.

  • December 16,2005,our life was forever changed. My husband, Pedro, was in Guadalajara, Mexico, tying up a few loose endsfrom our recent move back to the States. Pedro and a friend were abducted, carjacked . . . TAKEN! We knew few details and the investigation was at a dead end for months. The first weekswere the most agonizing. Not knowing where he was or WHY was very difficult. As the months wen...

  • I met Lori in the Spring 1992. We formed a strong friendship that grew into a traditional love and admiration for one another. Lori had two children when I met her, Heidi 9 and Dustin 7. Today they are young adults. Sometimes when I talk to them they sound as if they are more lost than Stevie, the daughter Lori and I have together. Stevie is just 13. We lost Lori early this year to Breast Canc...

  • I lost my husband the day before I delivered our daughter, Lawlli. I have been struggling for the past six years with my own feelings, let alone, with how to help my daughter with her feelings. I wasn’t comfortable with my hurt and anger and jealousy. I had no clue how to teach Lawlli that her feelings were okay, because I didn’t think my feelings were okay. We found out about Lost and Found fro...

  • My dad died on June 10, 2008, after having a routine surgery. He was getting some kidney stones removed, something that he’s had done about a bazillion times. My brother and I stayed home while our mom and dad went to the hospital. Around dinnertime, Mom came home and told us that everything had gone well and that he was going to spend the night. We then went to eat dinner and started on our way...

  • Twenty months since I lost my Sally. I still wake up every morning missing her and go to sleep thinking of her. One day at a time . . . baby steps!! My kids and I are turning the corner and looking towards the future . . . biggest step so far!

  • George Family My name is Brooke. I have two beautiful children, Blake 8 and Skyler 5. We lost Jamie, their father and my husband, in 2004 to suicide. When I got the call from Lost and Found that we would be going to Randy Bacon Studio to get our portrait made, I was both excited and sad at the same time. Jamie and I were planning to have our family portrait made after we had Skyler, but we nev...

  • April 23, 2009, my children, Ashleigh and Kendall, lost their best friend - their dad - Joe Nakato. Joe was a wonderful father, and I am thankful that we had him in our lives for the time we did. He found true happiness in his children; they were the pure delight of his life. I hope that I can instill in them the qualities I admired most about him: kindness, generosity, compassion for others. I ...

  • Our journey since you left us has not been easy. How do you fill the empty space? Losing you, Richard, has changed our lives beyond words. Shattered like broken glass, the heart bleeds. Feelings too strong to face and retreating to a stage of denial is so much safer, blocking all feelings. In the beginning, the feelings are too much to bear. Only with time, support of loved ones and God can one ...

  • Life was good for us until June 2007. My husband Justin had been playing football in the arena football league and began having numbness in his right hand. The diagnosis was two brain tumors, stage 3 cancer. Two weeks later, Justin- age 28 - died. He left behind his two children, 5-year old Jacob and 3-year old Abby. Jacob was the most visibly affected. He was angry, sad, and didn’t understand. ...

  • I have survived many tragedies in my life but losing a child is by far the worst. However, by the grace of God, I will survive this one also. A couple of years ago, I had breast cancer and lost a part of my body. I thought that was bad, but it pales in comparison. Losing my child is like losing a part of my "being.” Andrea was ripped from my heart, and that jagged tear will always be there. A ce...

  • The lonely thing about our journey is it has only consisted of the hope of coping. The main obstacle is to overcome. Death is hard in any circumstance. Suicide is harder because there are no answers, only questions. What was he thinking? Why did this happen? What could I have done differently? Then to explain to a 10-year-old child what happened when you are not sure yourself is extremely diffic...

  • I started in utter shock. Then I took my anger and decided to use it to "take the bull by the horns.” Dealing with business, insurance, the rumors and others was very draining. By the seventh month, things have settled down. I refuse to let others bring my kids and I down. I try to remain strong for the sake of the kids. I refuse to let the grief overtake me. I know that that’s not what my husba...

  • In this picture, we are feeling happy and sad. Taylor is sad because of all the bad stuff in life and because of not being able to see our mom, who died. She is looking to the side, not wanting to face the bad stuff. I, Alyssa, am looking happy and smiling for all the happy moments we have shared together. I am looking forward, facing all the bad stuff and trying to make things better because I ...